As you may have guessed, I'm a fan of Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen. They say that behind every frustration we have with our partner is a "wish." So the one thing you can do today is to pick a frustration and figure out what your "wish" is behind it, before you try to talk to your partner.
For instance, Harville described how Helen is always running late. In this case, his "wish" was that she will let him know when she is going to be late. Then he knows how to handle his time AND he also asks her that when she does finally arrive . . . to throw her arms around him and give him a big hug and a kiss!
So rather than criticize his wife for being late, he expresses it as a wish. Isn't that a great idea?
I've been going around all week, thinking about wishes. Some I've shared with Kent. Somehow it feels like I have a Fairy God Mother. (Having a sense of humor also helps!)
Try it out ... and let me know what you think.
To explore your "wishes," you may wish to enroll in our Premarital Preparation sessions. If so, call 206-789-9788 or contact me through our website.www.aheavenlyceremony.com
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