Looking for an Easy Way to Make Your Wife (Fiancee/Girlfriend/Any Woman) Happy?

Carol Tuttle, a teacher, speaker, healer and best-selling author of five books wrote a blog post on this very topic.

She wrote that all women want to be paid attention to and to be truly listened to.

Simple enough, right?  Carol explains there is a catch:  a woman knows when her guy is really paying attention and when he isn't.

So even if he looks like he's listening, women intuitively know if they're being tuned out!

Ms. Tuttle also explains that a man who is operating from his masculine core has a stronger tendency to only be able to tune into one thing at a time.

So, men, when your wife/fiancee/girlfriend wants to talk with you, you must decide if now is the best time to tune in to her.  Ask yourself, "Can I give her 100% of my attention right now?"

If the answer is no, don't just tune her out or tell her no!

Lovingly tell her you want to give her all your attention--and determine a time (that same day!) that you will be available to do that.

For example, if your woman want to talk to you while you are watching a football game, working on a project or reading the newspaper, if you are already involved in an activity that has your attention, lovingly tell her you want to give her 100% of your attention and decide together when that time will be.

This will make any woman happier than you know.

Thanks, Carol!  Like it!!

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Do You Know Why Falling In Love Feels so Good?

Today, Kent and I learned about the "Cuddle Hormone." 

We were listening to Dawson Church, PhD, a well known  health writer and researcher and editor of Energy Psychology talk about relationships. 

So often we hear couples explain how when they met, it just felt so right.  And, I remember how ecstatic I was when Kent came into my life.

Dr. Church explained that couples in love initially feel so fantastic because of the "Cuddle Hormone."  This euphoria lasts for about a year.  During that time, two people just want to cuddle, to be near one another.  They can't get enough of each other. 

After that year, the "hormone" dramatically drops.  This is the time when people in relationship can seem to fall out of love and the two may move on to other relationships.  Mother Nature, you see, wants diversity in the gene pool so the "Cuddle Hormone" is doing its job perfectly.

So how to maintain an ongoing healthy, happy, so-in-love relationship?  Well, that's when relationship skills come in handy.

As I've already written about, Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT, is one of those tools.  It can help individuals see through the ecstacy to reality during that first year and to heal developmental wounds that interfer with connection after that. 

The two of us tapped through the exercises Dr. Church lead.  We were both profoundly moved.  Good stuff!

You can learn more about Dr. Church, EFT and the World Tapping Summit at this website.

And if you would like to develop some of your relationship skills, you may wish to consider our premarital sessions.  For more information, call us at 206-789-9788 or through our website.

Marriage and Mindfulness --Think of the Possibilities!!!

 

I was listening to the "Interfaith Amigos" (Pastor Don Mackenzie, Imam Jamal Rahman,and Rabbi Ted Falcon) about mindfulness.  This has been my focus for some time now and it was very inspiring to hear what these three people had to say.  They spent some time talking about mindfulness in relationship.

What I took away from the radio segment was the importance of being in the present.  Not slipping into habit which can lead to a stale quality of being between two people but creating ritual or a way to remain truly present with the person you love. 

Whether you believe in a god or God or no god, I think there are ways to do this.  So today, I experimented in my our life and love.  Whenever something occurred that was difficult, I said "What if I was loving and brought peace and harmony to this situation."

That simple sentence really kept me centered on what was happening.  And often brought a flood of love into my life.  It wasn't easy ... yet I would like to try this again tomorrow.  I really like the idea that what I do, no matter if it is driving my car in a way that brings more love and peace into the world or the way I'm washing a window or writing an email or being welcomed home by Kent, I do with consciousness and mindfulness.

Wow ... just imagine what could be possible in relationship!

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